I was wandering through the blogosphere this morning and stopped in for a visit at Tarheel Red. It’s one of the many blogs I discovered when I first started writing here a few months ago. I enjoy reading it partly for the author’s writing skill, but also because my husband often talks about wanting to retire to North Carolina some day. Of course, I’m still hoping to win the lottery before then, so I can buy a nice piece of mountain property for my luxury estate…but those are daydreams for another time.
Tarheel had an interesting post, Abortion: What Is It?, to which I started to write a comment, when I realized that I apparently had much more to say on the topic than originally anticipated. So, I thought I’d give it a go at writing this post instead. I often find words limited in their ability to accurately express both feeling and opinions, especially on such controversial topics. But the more practice we get, the easier it becomes…
I used to be strongly pro-choice, but that was back when I naively believed that someone would surely only make such a decision under dire circumstances. Nowadays, it seems that many people want to use it as a means to skirt responsibility. There’s no need for caution in regards to safe sex, when we can reserve the inconvenience of worrying about that until after we get pregnant. All the while, we’re being egged on by a President who makes public statements that he doesn’t want his daughters to be “punished with a baby” because they made a mistake in judgment.
This statement, to me, is off-target in that ‘punishment’ and ‘reward’ are natural or artificial consequences to a particular behavior, which serve to either diminish or maintain that behavior. So, in essence, the baby would be a natural consequence that would decrease the likelihood of making the same poor choice in the future. Whereas getting an abortion would be a reward for said poor choice, which would then lead to an increase in the likelihood of repeating that very mistake, possibly multiple times.
I’ve seen this same type of attitude over and over again in various situations that children are prone to get themselves into. As parents, it’s natural to want to protect our children, but our number one job is to teach our children and to help them learn. It’s sad that we live in a time when so many parents are so eager to help their children avoid negative consequences for ‘bad’ behaviors and miss taking advantage of these learning opportunities. It’s even sadder that so many people now value life so little that they’re willing to destroy innocent lives so that they don’t have to think before they act.
I’m still pro-choice, but anti-abortion. I believe in god-given free will, but that people need to make responsible choices and not take such decisions so lightly. Sometimes, that requires a little post-conventional thought. I think our laws should reflect a commitment on our part, as a society, to hold people accountable for frequent, unrestrained, recklessness behavior in regard to the needless death of unborn fetuses. In short, I wouldn’t cry or lose any sleep if abortion were made illegal, especially in a similar manner as any other type of murder, with exceptions for extenuating circumstances (e.g., self-defense). I can only hope that more and more Americans will begin to recognize the damage that’s been done by allowing abortions to go on, unchecked, for so long.